Hello,

After years of effort trying to make a change in my relationships, I told myself, “This is the last thing I’m going to try.” During the first program on relationships, I experienced a lot—uncontrollable crying and body tremors.

In the emotional maturity program, however, I felt tense from the very first lecture. About halfway through, I continued attending only because I wanted to finish what I had started. Many times, I either fell asleep during or at the end of a session. About ten days after the program ended, I woke up next to my partner—who, for once, hadn’t left the bed before me.

Surprisingly, I didn’t feel irritated or disgusted by the smell of his breath. I could say that there was a sense of peace and calmness in the space. I accepted him fully, including the unpleasant smell. What followed was a shock—we were able to talk about everyday things, and it didn’t feel like I was annoying him. We exchanged spontaneous gentle touches, and the day passed without arguments, in mutual respect. Not every day is like that, but most of them are.

He works abroad during the week, but now he calls and asks how I’m doing, and I don’t feel like he’s doing it out of obligation. He no longer mocks my work and asks if I need help.

In conversations with others, I’ve noticed that they genuinely listen to me when I respond to their questions. My voice even changes their posture and tone. In conversations with my sons, I’m able to set boundaries in a calm and respectful way—I could feel that the pressure and anger didn’t rise in my belly in response to their outbursts or dissatisfaction. I calmly told them that their words were inappropriate and disrespectful. With my daughter, it’s not always successful, but it’s getting better.

I now have a clearer picture of my upbringing and the patterns I once believed to be right but were actually burdensome.

Wishing you a lovely day.