Hello Aleš,

I joined the relationship program because I’ve been single for quite some time. I grew up in a family where alcohol was present and where I was the one saving my parents from their problems. I was the parent in the family, not the child—as it should have been. All of this greatly affected my relationships with men. They either cheated on me, took advantage of me, were emotionally unavailable, or left me in uncertainty without clarity, making it impossible to rely on them.

During the program, I ended a relationship that had lasted for years without any real progress—on the contrary, it was marked by exploitation and more of the same. I had been going in circles for a while and knew it was leading nowhere, but I simply couldn’t bring myself to end it. First, I had to set boundaries and make it clear to my parents that I would no longer be solving their problems (I had already begun addressing this with my father before the program, and during the program, I did the same with my mother). I had to stand on my own two feet. During the program, I finally managed to end that relationship that had no future. For the first time, I feel like I’m living in the present and that I’ve left the past behind.

In the past, I was also very anxious in stressful situations (my mother still is), and I would constantly wonder when the “right” partner would come—someone with whom I could have a healthy and emotionally mature relationship. With the program, I managed to eliminate that anxiety, because now I feel calm within myself and I trust that the right partner will come into my life. I no longer wonder when, where, how, or who it will be. I’m able to let go and trust. Even at work, where situations can be extremely stressful, I now act calmly and believe that problems can be solved—and that I can solve them and trust in my ability to do so.

I am now working on trusting myself and my feelings more. I can now easily express my emotions to people in person (something I used to struggle with a lot, especially face-to-face). Now I see that I truly want this—I want to express myself, to share my feelings, and to have face-to-face conversations.

I’m happy and proud of myself for deciding to join this program, as I’ve gained a lot of new knowledge and have become aware of patterns I hadn’t been able to recognize or resolve before.

Grateful for your program and your explanations.

Thank you.

Kind regards,
Mateja