Hello Aleš,

I will try to capture the essence of the program I attended. Both programs – Partner Relationships and Improving the Relationship with a Child – gave me an extraordinary experience in understanding myself and my reactions in various moments and situations in my environment. The awareness of how important it is to be in a good partnership, which continues the foundation of a healthy parental relationship, became very clear.

I joined the Improving the Relationship with a Child program to understand, as a mother, how my behavior and expression affect my children. My children will be 19 this year, and I can no longer change the experiences of their upbringing, but I can show, through my example, what understanding, respect, love, etc., mean in a relationship today.

The feelings I experienced during the exercises gave me several “aha” moments – showing me where in my body I hold tension or chronic fatigue. I recognized feelings of guilt, shame, anger, longing, joy, and so on. By identifying these emotions, understanding why and in which situations they arise, I was better able to understand myself – when I go into defense, fight, or flight. When you become aware of these emotions and learn that you can express them verbally to another person, it raises the quality of your relationships on all levels – partnership, parenting, friendship, and professional. Through awareness and observing what bothers, hinders, or threatens me, I can more easily change and express myself. You begin to recognize what is truly yours in a relationship and what belongs to someone else.

The role of us parents is very important. Our actions and words influence them – children are our mirror, and we are theirs too. Being aware of what and how we reflect back to them carries great significance.

I’ve learned to stand up for myself and to raise my boundaries (before, everyone “walked over me,” mocked me… today, much less so). “A kind word finds a kind place” is a proverb that has accompanied me since childhood. Today, I can express it clearly and respectfully – with more boldness and courage.

It is definitely a long process once you begin. And it’s worth it.
I recommend AEQ programs to everyone who has or wishes to have children.

Warm regards,
Irena