Dear Sir/Madam,
My 12-year-old daughter is scheduled for a tonsillectomy next April. Her tonsils are significantly enlarged, causing her to snore and breathe through her mouth at night. About a year ago, she also had a peritonsillar abscess.
I would like to know whether participating in the Emotional Efficiency Improvement Program could positively impact her condition.
Best regards.
Tonsil issues in children often reveal hidden dynamics within family relationships. A key point to understand is that expressing emotions is not the same as using them effectively. Many people express their emotions ineffectively, creating a toxic atmosphere filled with blame, resentment, and covert envy. Such an environment places pressure on the child, who becomes the invisible recipient of these toxic energies. The tonsils, as part of the immune system, become the site where the body attempts to detoxify this environment. The purulent discharge from the tonsils symbolizes the body’s effort to manage emotional toxins from a poisoned environment.
When emotions within the family are not handled consciously and constructively, chronic tension is created, which negatively affects the child’s physical and emotional health. The tonsils become a physical reflection of these repressed conflicts, bearing the burden of suppressed emotions. Even when conflict and negative feelings are swept under the rug, they still affect every family member. Children, especially in the sensitive preadolescent stage, are most vulnerable, as their bodies and emotions are especially responsive to environmental influences. In this context, the peritonsillar abscess can be seen as the culmination of chronic inflammatory processes triggered by long-term overload, where there is no more room in the body for added tension or infection.
It is important to understand that accepting and recognizing the root causes of a child’s condition is neither easy nor pleasant, as it requires confronting family dynamics and personal emotional patterns. This is a process that demands time, patience, and a willingness to change. For this reason, I teach about such connections in my online program, where parents can gradually face these deeper causes and gain the knowledge and tools for more effective emotional usage. The program enables a progressive understanding that a child’s chronic issues are not merely physiological but also reflect the chronic problems of the environment in which the child grows up.
With a conscious approach enabled by the AEQ method, parents gradually recognize and resolve harmful emotional patterns that create a toxic atmosphere. This not only enhances their own emotional efficiency but also heals family dynamics. When the environment transforms from toxic to supportive, the child’s body, including the tonsils, gains the opportunity to free itself from chronic burdens and return to its natural state of balance. This process leads not only to improved physical health but also to stronger connection and understanding within the family, allowing the child to grow in a healthier and more supportive environment with less influence from inherited emotional inefficiencies.
Accepting and understanding the causes of a child’s condition requires time and AEQ exercises so that the parent can feel within themselves what the child expresses through inflamed tonsils. This is precisely why I teach about such connections and their solutions in my online program. The program is designed to gradually guide parents through the process of confronting the causes of their child’s condition and discovering effective ways to use emotions to improve and heal the family environment. A higher level of emotional efficiency in parents, who can better identify and address chronic issues—often present in family lines for generations—can replace the role of antibiotics and tonsils. The environment in which a child develops chronic problems often mirrors chronic issues in the broader family dynamic, including unspoken conflicts, suppressed resentment, and hidden envy. In the program, I teach how to recognize and transform these hidden dynamics so that the child is no longer forced to carry the burden of poisoned relationships. Tonsils, which previously symbolized overload and stress, can through this healing process return to their healthy function, and the child can gain space for free expression and growth in a healthy environment.
