Levels of emotional maturity

The effect of raising the emotional maturity of one of the partners in the marriage. What happens if only one partner develops emotional maturity and the other does not?

The first thing is that as long as you are raising your own conscious emotional maturity, you will usually encounter more and more anger from your partner. This is the main problem of people who try to raise emotional maturity with methods that do not raise subconscious emotional maturity. Unfortunately, this is the majority of methods that people use to try to raise their empathy and spirituality, where rapid changes occur, as only your consciousness changes.

The kinetic energy that you send to your partner on the third level, that is to say, your conscious, is sufficiently different because you have, for example, attended a seminar, a workshop, read a book, went on a “retreat” or something similar, where there is a rapid change. This is also easier to sell. You come home excited and euphoric. You feel all excited and enlightened. However, the level of subconscious emotional maturity moves very little or nothing at all. When you come to certain insights or realizations, the gap between how you talk to your partner on a conscious level and how you influence them on a physical level grows.

It is like having two bosses at work, and both would give you different orders. If you imagine yourself as a worker working for the two uncoordinated bosses, it is normal to become increasingly angrier, enraged, and disappointed in your partner. It is normal for a “split” to occur between two partners if one of the partners raises only conscious emotional maturity.

When learning the AEQ method on programs led by a high-level teacher, both emotional maturities are raised, or you are allowed to alternately raise both emotional maturities. How much you raise is up to you. Raising subconscious emotional maturity is a significantly more demanding and unpleasant task than if you want to raise only conscious emotional maturity. For this, you need more explanation, more knowledge, and a stronger influence from the one who teaches you.


Aleš Ernst, author of the AEQ method and AEQ breathing

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