Physical and emotional weakness is almost always linked to the inability to push someone or something away from us, even when it threatens us. This is often related to sexual abuse, when a person attempts to push away a man or woman who is trying to abuse them sexually.
If, during resistance, there is a sense that even worse things will happen if they fight back, the person must suppress this spontaneous and authentic reaction—especially if there is no one to help or rescue them at the time. This leads to a blockage of a specific movement that would allow them to use explosive energy, accompanied by an exhale, to push the other person away and say, “Leave me alone, go away.”
If family relationships were such that men were aggressive and did not protect the vulnerable, or women failed to provide the necessary care or support for the child—or, as is historically common in Slovenia due to gender role reversals, the mother was the attacker—the child does not dare stand up for themselves. Such a child must not resist or push away those who impose helplessness on them, and no one rescues them from that position. This creates a blockage whereby we consciously or subconsciously restrict the ability to perform a movement that would push things away.
Eventually, when the burden becomes too much, an injury, fall, or blow may occur—seemingly by chance. But these events are never truly accidental. They happen at the exact right moment and in the exact right way to further reinforce the pattern of blockage and movement weakness. This learned contraction and tightening ensures we don’t push anything away, don’t become too aggressive, and continue to fail in making space for ourselves.
How is powerlessness connected to aggressive behavior?
Through AEQ learning, we can increasingly feel and understand our body’s responses. With practice, the inner armor thins and vital force increases. Both AEQ exercises and AEQ breathing aim to improve bodily awareness and teach us how to activate aggressive energy when necessary.
In nature and in life, those who cannot properly use aggression face significant survival challenges. Aggressive behavior is a natural part of life. No matter how much human free will or higher spiritual development may try to deny this, the truth remains: without the proper use of aggression, powerlessness grows. Powerlessness inevitably leads to hatred, and hatred then causes entropic aggressive emotions to be increasingly directed toward one’s future.
Someone who is powerless in the present and unable to change it due to chronic contraction and helplessness increasingly hates the future, as it holds nothing positive. The future can only become better, brighter, or less painful if we know how to use aggression to address what bothers, hinders, threatens, or limits us.
Time, by its nature, is entropic—it flows from birth to death, beginning to end. This entropy can only be reversed into syntropy if we use aggression in a constructive way. Then, by acting in the present, we can create a better or more beautiful future. That is how we send syntropic energy into the future—and that is only possible if we are not powerless now.
Being occasionally powerless is perfectly normal. In those moments, the outlook may seem grim, but with greater emotional maturity, the support of others, conscious reflection, and a different relationship with time, we can regain strength over that acute powerlessness. The vision of our future then significantly improves. This is precisely why it’s so important to know how to use aggression appropriately—only then can we reduce future problems and avoid repetitive ones. If problems continue to repeat, the future gets worse, and thus, we naturally begin to hate it.
But what if you have a child and you hate your own future? We all know the saying: children are our future. If we hate our future and the child is our future, then the child senses that we subconsciously hate them too. A child cannot distinguish between subconscious and conscious feelings toward them; for them, it’s the same or nearly so. This is why children are often the way they are.
What awaits them in the future? Everything happening in the world today was created by our ancestors—we merely emphasized it further. And children will receive what we’ve prepared for them—not just what we wish they’d receive, but the totality of it. They can’t choose much of what they’ll be served, so it’s no surprise they become aggressive toward themselves and toward those they are not dependent on.
This is why it’s especially important for us as parents to feel and understand the origin and purpose of subconscious processes, and to distinguish aggression from violence, effective use of aggressive emotions from ineffective aggression. In this way, we can understand and change our influence on the world—a world full of powerlessness and people who do not know or cannot effectively use aggression for a better tomorrow.
