AEQ AND EMOTIONS
Before I attended my first AEQ therapy, I thought that I would learn a couple of exercises that I will perform for a few months and that my undefined chronic pain will ease itself or maybe even disappear. After a few years of slowly getting familiar with the method, I can say that I couldn’t have been more wrong. My interpretation was completely illusory. I never imagined I would plow where I definitely didn’t want to be.
During active sessions, I experienced mostly disappointments over myself as I slowly became aware that I was feeling bad about my body. Because I exaggerated in performing the exercises to feel certain muscles at all, I felt pain all too often. I didn’t know how to catch the right moves, make them feel enjoyable, and learn from them. At the same time, my ego often guided me with the goal of, say, bringing my hand as close to the ground as possible, even though I had already crossed the comfort zone. I became aware that this isn’t the goal, but I never really understood it. My ego was stronger than the well-meaning advice I received. I was becoming tired. I was often accompanied by strong feelings of confusion and not even knowing what I was doing and that I haven’t even grasped the point of the method. I got confused every time I had to describe what I felt inside my body and when asked to describe the difference between before and after. My conscious feeling was very weak.
We are raised and taught that we need to do something constantly. This belief stems from modern consumer society. We surrender to it only if our body and feelings cannot influence our thoughts, decisions, and actions.
The disconnection in the body leads to reflection and altering how our consciousness works to increase its speed. The body is unable to follow because it is subordinate to the actual state of everything and is committed to the synchronization of life processes. Our consciousness has a small influence on how the body works since most of its vital processes are automated. However, we can use the little amount of influence the consciousness has to change some of the body’s functioning. This is especially important when adapting to changes in our environment and surroundings.
A too-large inconsistency between the consciousness and the body will harm us in the long-term: it leads to inefficiency, injury, and illness.
We feel our inner and outer world through our bodies, through which we also respond to it. By learning with the AEQ method, we change these relationships and create a stronger and clearer connection with the body’s reality.
Based on the reality of bodily sensations, our identity has content and structure.
For each of us, the basic reality is our body. The loss of the influence of bodily sensations on the functioning of the mind and balance changes lives and creates chronic constriction and malfunction of the sensory-motor feedback loop. For a person in this state its common that:
(1) He tries to achieve the impossible or is holding onto an illusion.
(2) Isn’t grounded and has a strong feeling of weakness
(3) He lost hope and faith
Reading for stronger nerves: how does self-destruction work with the best of intentions? The resemblance to self-destruction in sports is no accident.
Even in early childhood, a toddler has unmonitored access to the Internet and more and more often, their own smartphone. He is often more supportive of adults than adults are of him.
Health is the basic need of life. Healthy should be our normal condition, while illness should be the exception. Illnesses begin when the complexity of the whole operation is lower than the demands of the surroundings, from which follows, that disease cannot be a basic state of life, for then life could not develop at all..
In my work line, I realized that most of my client’s condition is the exact opposite of what it was supposed to be and that most illnesses appeared because of their self-destructive behavior with good intentions. The foundation for that behavior was already developed in early childhood. .
What is pain and what is it telling us
The online Oxford dictionary defines pain as a “highly unpleasant physical sensation caused by illness or injury”, and lists as its second meaning “mental suffering or distress”. Since pain can result from both physical and mental discomfort, it is clear that both body and mind are susceptible to it. Pain takes many forms. Scratch. Blow. Contusion. Illness. Sleeping disorder. Threat. Stomach pain. Hand or leg numbness. Pain can be severe or mild, but we always know it is there – and it is usually trying to tell us something.
Sometimes the message is clear. If we have stomach ache during the week but not on weekends, maybe we should change our job.
We don’t want to change ourselves, despite expecting others to change, which would in turn, change our lives. Yet it is imperative that all the changes we need to make come from within us. Change means to free ourselves of the feelings of division, isolation, loneliness, anger, fear and pain. We create a life in which we relax and enjoy a life where we know more and more that all the best will come to an end. Can you think of change as spring cleaning? If you do it regularly and little by little, then you will eventually complete it. You don’t even have to do everything to start noticing the results. If you can change, even just a little, then you will feel better soon.
Happiness, joy, anger, sadness, anxiety, fear, … emotions that we use to respond to events that feel important to us. And for all these emotions we can say that they have a bodily component to be reflected in the body, they affect the texture of the muscles and their tension.
When all the strong emotions become activated there is a strong physiological reaction. The activity of the sympathetic nervous system increases, our heart rate accelerates, our pressure increases, we breathe faster, we are overwhelmed by adrenaline, and our body-muscles are ready for activity (fight, flight). These changes actually allow a person to cope with the situation more successfully.
Accepting/giving, opening/closing, expanding/shrinking are all words that can be compared to breathing – inhale/exhale.
The purpose of breathing is to exchange gasses between air and blood in our lungs as efficiently as we can. The oxygen that comes from the air, which the most important substance for a human, thus becomes accessible to all body cells, and in the presence of oxygen, the cells release the energy that the cells need to function.
Despite man having the same basic body structure as other mammals, he is the only one that is perfectly balanced in an upright posture.
The foundation for it is the increased role and strength of the buttock muscle. Upright posture has exposed the vulnerable parts of his body (stomach, neck, and crotch) to the world. Exposed, he began to understand his feelings and develop the ability to express them. At the same time, his front limbs gained another purpose and meaning. When you observe a violinist during a play, you believe that his hands have a life of their own. Man owes a highly developed touch to his hands, which is very important in the perception of reality and most influences the development and functioning of the mind.
Fortunately, we have become increasingly aware of how important the body is and that it is not an entity far removed from the spirit and mind. The Ancient Greeks used to say: A healthy spirit in a healthy body.
A person without consciousness would be like a robot: perfect in his movement, nor would he make too much or too little movement in unconditional goal orientation.
He would feel no emotion and feeling and would be carefully protected from pain. But since man is not a machine, it is good that he pays close attention to his consciousness. Being aware of oneself is natural to us and allows us to choose and make decisions. The freer we are in body and spirit, the easier we direct our life, while ignorance makes us prisoners of a vicious circle of problems and illnesses.
Our organism is a complex and developing system, so it constantly forces us to nurture its integrity so that we are completely aware of it and try to advance in every level of living. A person’s consciousness is the one that allows all parts of the system to be efficient and cooperative. Self-awareness allows us to feel the shortcomings in our system’s functioning; only constant learning prevents us from shying away from problems. Learning the AEQ method is the approach that allows us to know and act, which gives us invaluable experience.
Entropy (2nd law of thermodynamics) is the decay of a system and chaos. It is a temporal, gravitational, evolutionarily conditioned change from complex to simple.
It means a change for the worse, into less order and complexity. There is a tendency to generalize by reducing the system’s branching and internal hierarchy to complete equalization with the lowest value (death)—the greater the order, the lower the entropy and vice versa. When a human is born, their orderliness increases, and with it, his adaptability, usefulness, and complexity. The higher the orderliness, the more useful the complexity is.
The amount of human energy that cannot be converted into work increases psychophysical disorder; it causes illness, pain, losing the will to live, even death.
Thomas Hanna recognized and defined three general reflex patterns, which are an adaptation of the body to stress. Anyone can recognize and feel them. But even though they are characteristic for humans, it doesn’t mean that we are aware of them. These patterns have a good and a bad side.
When a certain cause or need surfaces, the appropriate reflex activates himself. While it is already useful after evolution, its frequent activation, for example, during stress, which continues to occur, eventually turns into a state that we are no longer aware of and cannot control. We recognize this condition in a special posture and movement. It is important for our general well-being and our daily efficiency to know and recognize these reflexes, to understand what triggers them and how to lead them, and even intentionally trigger and how to shut it off. Most people develop a unique combination of two or three reflexes as they age. Their feeling and control, which can be regained with the AEQ method’s help, allow us to limit and reduce, but we can also eliminate the consequences and improve health, well-being, and abilities.
The freeze response occurs upon simultaneous activation of the sympathetic and parasympathetic states of the autonomic nervous system (ANS). This happens when the limbic system detects that neither fight nor flight is appropriate in the current situation and that they are in mortal danger. The victim of the trauma and, consequently, the freezing reflex perceives reality differently. The sensation of pain decreases, time slows down, and the person acts numb.
Due to the protection of the center of the organism, consciousness develops its surface numbness by increasing its tone. Freud wrote that the outer part then ceases to have the structure characteristic of a living being, and to some extent, becomes inorganic. Mollusk armor is a fine example of hardening the membrane’s surface to protect sensitive parts of the body.
Skin isn’t only a shield or the physical border of our body, but it is also deeply connected to our consciousness.
Changing the mind and not ‘fixing’ the muscles and body structure
Conventional approaches toward rectifying mistakes in our body felt as chronic pain, movement limitation, or inefficient movement derive from the body’s structure and how muscle and body processes work.
Chemical compounds that belong in the medical doctrine, muscle groups’ strengthening, and most often, long-term rehabilitation procedures are often invasive interventions in the body. They usually bring only short-term changes for the better and long-term deterioration of health. We like to say: genetics is to blame, and changes for the worse are “normal and inevitable.” What the things mentioned above have in common is that the rehabilitation process usually does not involve changes in a conscious effort to feel and understand your body how, when, and why improper movement occurred.
From the moment you decide to change to the moment you feel the change, there is a period of progression.
You swing between the old and new, despite knowing, understanding, and feeling that the old doesn’t suit you anymore, disturbs you, or even harms you. And despite that, you’re still swinging between what once was and what you wish to be or wish to have. Progression is needed if we wish to survive. When I explain to a client how to solve problems with the AEQ method®, I often hear, “I’ve known a lot about this for a long time, but it hasn’t helped me so far.” To which I then ask, “Do you actually understand and comprehend this and actively deal with pain and problems?”
There is a big difference between knowing what needs to be done and learning from both successes and failures. We need to take our time and deal with change; conscious actions are required.